Narcissists Need Not Apply

I read an interesting article about how narcissistic our culture is today. It said,

“A new analysis of the American Freshman Survey, which has accumulated data for the past 47 years from 9 million young adults, reveals that college students are more likely than ever to call themselves gifted and driven to succeed, even though their test scores and time spent studying are decreasing.

“Psychologist Jean Twenge, the lead author of the analysis, is also the author of a study showing that the tendency toward narcissism in students is up 30 percent in the last thirty-odd years.”*

The article went on to talk about how because of Facebook and Twitter, everyone can act like they are a rock star. They can live in the fantasy world of video games as an Olympian or sharpshooter. On MTV, they see lives just like theirs portrayed on reality TV shows— people who are portrayed as “stars,” but in reality are still living in their parents’ basements.

But then there are those who have a realistic assessment of themselves, and here is some good news: God can do amazing things through those people. In fact, God goes out of His way to find people like that—people who see their shortcomings, but also the greatness of God.

When Simon Peter saw himself in light of God’s greatness, he told Jesus, “Depart from me, for I am a sinful man!” (Luke 5:8). In other words, “Don’t waste your time on me Lord. I will only let you down!”
The people God uses are not proud and arrogant, but see themselves for what they are.

This gives hope to all the people out there who are not extraordinary, but ordinary.

• Those who are not necessarily the best students, class president, or on the homecoming team.
• Those who are not the first chosen for the team, but the last.
• Those who have not made the cover of People magazine’s “World’s Most Beautiful People.”
• Those who don’t naturally have outstanding talent.

There are a lot of people out there like that. (Just look at the initial auditions for “American Idol” or “The X Factor”!)

If we humble ourselves, examine our gifts and abilities realistically, and then hand them over to God to use as He pleases, God can and will use us for His glory.

“Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.” —James 4:10 NKJV

*Albow, Keith. “We Are Raising a Generation of Deluded Narcissists.” Published 1/8/2013.

8 thoughts on “Narcissists Need Not Apply”

  1. Barbarajean says:

    Can narcissism be “cured”?

  2. Deb says:

    I like your article. It’s too bad the world does not see it the same way. For example, if you want any kind of a job you have to be a superstar these days. The overwhelming message seems to be “ordinary people need not apply”. Every applicant has to knock themselves out trying to convince the employer how special and unique they are. It’s so sad that being ordinary is considered a weakness.

  3. Anonymous says:

    Hi Greg,
    This is true! Thank you for sharing bless u . PattyB

  4. Daniel says:

    As an Australian high school teacher for fifteen years, I have been increasingly astounded how young people want more prestige, wealth, material possessions and the ‘perfect’ career and relationships. Many teenagers aspire to this and implement minimal effort or sacrifice. This article is so true – our culture is to blame in many ways by elevating the importance of the individual at the expense of others along the way. We’re constantly told the most important person in the world is ‘you’ and in spite of our individual talents or lack of, people often have unrealistic perceptions of themselves. Humility is a very underrated trait nowadays too. I find an increasing lack of it in the classroom and our society as a whole. We need to be constantly reminded to humble ourselves before the Lord and be content with the gifts he has given us. Using them for his glory is what he wants. I’m reminded of Psalm 37:4. Seek your happiness in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. I believe that is a worthwhile attitude that young people and anyone for that matter should aspire to.

  5. suzy says:

    Amen. Social networking can be a quick easy fix for a bad day or just feeling down but we should find our identity in Christ. I think of the hymn ” Love lifted Me, when nothing else would help, Love lifted me. He teaches us how we can be edifying , but you know, i need his comforter,too. “Put on the garmet of praise for the spirit of heaviness, lift up your voice to God.. the He can bring a song or hymn that is edifying for us. Create in me a clean heart O God, and renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from thy presence ;and take not thy holy spirit from me. Restore unto me the joy of my salvation;and uphold me with thy free spirit. Then, will i teach transgressors thy ways; and sinners shall be converted unto thee. Psalms 51 :oD

  6. Kim says:

    I found this to be very interesting and realized that our culture from a young age is taught that they are “special”, we can’t have teams that actually win or lose anymore everyone has to get a trophy just for showing up. We are raising generation after generation of selfish narcissists who believe the rules don’t apply to them but to everyone else. “I’m special” I don’t have to play by the same rules. We need to be teaching our kids that they are special to us as parent or family but that that there is always going to be someone better at fill in the blank or look prettier or is smarter and that is not what we need to base our self-worth on. Our self worth comes from the reflection of love that God has for each of us. That is what makes each of us special. It is in Christ that ordinary, people are used for extra ordinary things. He never uses the most talented or obvious choice so that we know that it is not by us (our own belief in our abilities) that his will was accomplished. The Bible is filled with flawed, ordinary people doing extra ordinary things.

  7. Sylvia Anderson says:

    Great article and so true, it is very sad!

  8. Michelle says:

    So true!

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