How to Pray when Things Get Hard

Do you remember the first time you ever prayed? Maybe it was when you were a little child, or maybe it’s something you have just started to do recently. Maybe you have been praying lately, and it seems as though all you hear from Heaven is the answer no.

Sometimes people say that God never answers their prayers, but he answers prayer in three ways: Yes, no, and wait. When God says no, we think he didn’t answer our prayers, but he did answer. He said no. That’s an answer. Wait is also an answer.

In the closing verses of the New Testament book of James, we are given specific and practical areas in which prayer is important.

First, James tells us we should pray when we’re afflicted: “Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray” (5:13 NKJV). When we find ourselves in trying circumstances, the temptation is to strike out at the person who helped bring those circumstances upon us, or to blame someone for our circumstances, or to even become mad at God for allowing this in our lives, or to wallow in self-pity.

But what does God tell us we should do when we are afflicted, when we are suffering, when we are in trouble? We should pray. Why? It just may be that God may remove our problems because of our prayers. That is not to say God always will take our afflictions, suffering, or troubles away, but it is to say that sometimes he will. By simply bringing our troubles before God and acknowledging our need and dependence on him, he can lift that problem we are presently facing. Prayer also can give us the grace we need to endure our troubles and be brought much closer to God.

When troubles come our way, one thing we might pray for is wisdom. James tells us earlier in his epistle, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him” (1:5 NKJV). Why would we ask God for wisdom? Because trouble, hardship and difficulty can come into our lives as a result of our disobedience to Him.
Jonah faced many troubles as a result of his sin. In fact, when he disobeyed, God caused a great fish to swallow him. After he was in that fish’s belly for a period of time, he cried out to the Lord and said, “When my soul fainted within me, I remembered the Lord; and my prayer went up to You, into Your holy temple” (Jonah 2:7 NKJV).

If Jonah had failed to repent, he might not have survived to experience the forgiveness of God and the restoration to a life of usefulness. So by praying, he came to his senses and learned the lesson God was trying to teach him. Thus he was delivered.

Sometimes if we will learn the lesson God is trying to teach us, then the affliction, the trouble, the hardship will lift and break just like storm clouds when the sun suddenly shines after a storm.

But sometimes our afflictions are coming not because of our disobedience, but quite the opposite. Our afflictions, our troubles, our hardships can come because we are obedient to God. All the hardship that came upon Job was because he was “a blameless and upright man” (Job 1:8 NKJV).

So when trouble comes, pray. Bring your troubles, bring your problems, and bring your cares to God.

James also tells us we should pray when we’re sick: “Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord” (5:14 NKJV). I believe in divine healing. I believe that God heals today. We know there is a natural process God has miraculously built into the human body, where it heals over a period of time. But I believe the Lord can quicken the healing process. I also believe that he can do a miracle when perhaps a doctor has said there is no hope.

God promises his healing touch. He tells us that by his stripes we are healed (see Isaiah 53:5). We should ask the Lord to heal us when we are facing sickness, but we must also recognize that sometimes God will say no. He may have another purpose in mind.

Then James cites the example of a righteous man greatly admired by his readers: “Elijah was a man with a nature like ours, and he prayed earnestly that it would not rain; and it did not rain on the land for three years and six months. And he prayed again, and the heaven gave rain, and the earth produced its fruit” (verses 17–18 NKJV).

When we read about Elijah in the Scriptures, we find him outrunning chariots, raising the dead, resting in the wilderness and being fed by ravens that dropped off his food. We read about his calling down fire from Heaven and stopping the rain with his prayers. It is hard for us to think of a man like that as human. He seems superhuman. It’s interesting that James chooses him, one of the most dramatic of the prophets, and says, “Elijah was a man with a nature like ours.”

What we forget is that after Elijah’s great contest with the prophets of Baal on Mount Carmel where he called down fire from heaven, he ran when he heard that Queen Jezebel wanted him killed. Elijah essentially said to the Lord, “Take my life. I don’t want to live.”

How could Elijah do that? He was human just like us, subject to like passions, subject to the same vulnerabilities. If a man like that, even with his weaknesses, could still muster up the faith to believe God for great things, then surely we can do the same.

James tells us that Elijah “prayed earnestly that it would not rain; and it did not rain on the land for three years and six months. And he prayed again, and the heaven gave rain, and the earth produced its fruit” (verses 17–18). The drought spoken of here was a result of Israel’s disobedience to God. But the time had come for the rain to return, and after Elijah’s contest with the prophets of Baal, he prayed for rain. His prayer wasn’t some laid-back request, however. He put his heart into it. Elijah passionately poured out his heart to Heaven.

We need to remember to do the same. Much of our prayer has no power in it because there is no heart in it. If we put so little heart into our prayers, then we cannot expect God to put much heart into answering them. Pray specifically. Pray fervently. Pray continually. Don’t give up.

7 thoughts on “How to Pray when Things Get Hard”

  1. Cindy Ramnath says:

    No matter what my husband and i do we always go through struggles can’t find that way to save money

  2. James Ogutu says:

    Indeed, God’s timing is the best.

  3. Rich says:

    Pastor Greg, I listen to you almost e Rey day on my way to work. Thank you for your ministry. Rich Lee in Alaska

  4. Waiting waiting waiting says:

    Pray with heart? Pray for wisdom? Pray for direction? Pray for a JOB? Ask for forgiveness. Beg for forgiveness. All of the above – done – over and over. He will give me the desires of my heart if I do all the above? And if NONE of these requests happen, then what? Is HE listening? Am I to assume – what? He doesn’t have time for me? He WANTS me to suffer? I’m all wrong? Answers of “yes” from Him appear to be for others.
    That’s MY reality.

    1. Arvid Anderson says:

      Don’t give up. I have waited for the same things and felt hopeless. But, when I re-focused on His Love and Mercy I found peace. Christ has brought our family through many trials and continues to comfort us. Praying for you

    2. Jenn says:

      Dear waiting waiting waiting,

      My heart goes out to you in this tough season you are experiencing. If you have placed your trust in Jesus Christ for salvation and as Lord of your life, you can be assured that God does hear your cry and that you are His child. He is a good Father who loves you, and if He is withholding anything in your life, it is because it would not be good for you, OR it is not His timing yet. “No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly.” (Psalm 84:11b) “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4) He doesn’t always give us everything we ever want (sometimes our desires are not good, sometimes even unbeknownst to us from our earthly perspective, but God has perfect heavenly perspective of what we need and what would be good for us). But as we delight in Him, our desires begin to match His best desires for us, and He will gladly meet these desires in His perfect timing. I don’t completely know your situation, but I can say as someone who has waited on the Lord, He is listening, and this process will help you draw closer to Him if you let it drive you to Him over and over again. Looking back, that season of waiting taught me so much and it was such a sweet time with the Lord as I surrendered the desires of my heart to Him and watched Him adjust them and fulfill them in a way I could never have dreamed. His way truly is best and I am so thankful to Him. I believe you will see His goodness as you keep seeking Him and placing your trust in Him as you wait. Don’t give up! He loves you and He is listening, and His plans for you are good, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Praying for you!

    3. Anonymous says:

      To waiting waiting waiting.
      Do not lose heart. Its hard not knowing what to do when we dont see provision after prayer. Try asking God to show you a particular way to pray or scripture for that situation. Not all common scripture fit our circumstances. The more specific and craft prayer God is giving you will get your prayer answered. You will get peace and your faith will increase. Remember its all in Gins will and timing.

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